{"id":794,"date":"2014-11-12T05:16:00","date_gmt":"2014-11-12T11:16:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/focuspressblog.com\/?p=794"},"modified":"2014-11-12T05:16:00","modified_gmt":"2014-11-12T11:16:00","slug":"challenges-growing-church","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/tampaseo.expert\/focus\/2014\/11\/12\/challenges-growing-church\/","title":{"rendered":"The Challenges of Growing Up in the Church"},"content":{"rendered":"

We\u2019re all well aware that the church is falling short in the area of evangelism, that we don\u2019t keep many of our young people faithful, and that the church has stagnated in areas. However, I think those are merely the external symptoms of a larger problem. I believe there\u2019s a fundamental area in which we fail those who grow up in the church.[1]<\/a>
\nIt starts with our understanding of sin. Most of us who were brought up in the church can tell similar tales of our conversion. We were good kids who attended Bible class and worship with our families, stayed out of trouble, and knew the plan of salvation well before we were baptized. We all had that one day when we decided we were ready, so we were baptized. After that we walked in newness of life\u2026 a newness of life that happened to look almost identical to our old lifestyle. We were still the same good, obedient kids who attended Bible class and worship and knew some Scriptures, we had just added the assurance of salvation through baptism. Realistically, what many of us experienced as we became Christians after growing up in the church was more akin to buying a life insurance policy. Life\u2019s going great, we\u2019re not doing anything terribly wrong, and now if we die we\u2019re good to go. Back to business as usual.
\n4 Problems<\/strong>
\nBecause we spent such a brief amount of time feeling lost and because we changed so little in our lives, we can struggle with truly\u00a0understanding the depth of what God did for us in sending Jesus to go to the cross. The person who was lost in a long-term lifestyle of sin but finally gave it all up and turned to Christ has no problem understanding the wickedness of sin, but those of us whose lives changed very little upon our conversion can have a tendency to struggle with that concept. This isn\u2019t a self-contained problem, though. When we don\u2019t have a proper grasp of our sins, it naturally leads to difficulties in other areas of our Christian lives.
\nBecause of that,\u00a0we feel justified by our own goodness. We all have a tendency to focus on our own ability to keep laws. When our first understanding of discipleship after baptism is \u201cjust keep doing what I\u2019ve been doing, except maybe read my Bible and pray a little more,\u201d it\u2019s easy to see why we get caught up in our own goodness. We know that the Bible is clear that we are not saved by our own righteousness (Romans 3:10-20) but if our Christian walk starts with an emphasis on simply continuing to be the same \u201cgood\u201d people we\u2019ve always been, we\u2019re not going to understand that.
\nWhen we feel justified by our own goodness, we completely cut out the idea of grace. The concept of God\u2019s grace continually<\/em> blotting out our sins is one that is seldom taught in the church, sadly. Because many have distorted what grace means and cheapened it to either include everyone who acknowledges God even in passing or to limit it only to those on whom God has forced it, we tend to shy away from it. And, our assurance of our own goodness cuts even further into the need for grace. We\u2019re saved because we have the right doctrines of salvation, we observe the proper practices of worship, we\u2019ve properly sorted out what men and women are to do in the church, and we don\u2019t sin like those people outside the church or even that woman across the pew. Because we\u2019ve reduced our salvation to such a list, we don\u2019t need grace anymore. So we don\u2019t talk about it, and people who grew up in the church feel an immense sense of pressure to be good enough, to meet a standard God Himself said was impossible (Romans 3:23). Some even leave the church because they tire of trying to please God, knowing they\u2019ll never be able to achieve perfection. What may be worse \u2013 some stay in the church with the implication that they have.
\nAnother problem that arises from an improper understanding of the weight of our sins is that we won\u2019t have a proper zeal for the lost. It\u2019s always been interesting to me that, generally speaking, those who have been around the church their entire lives often have far less passion for reaching the lost than those who are converted as adults. I\u2019ve seen plenty of people come out of a life filled with years of sin and immediately start talking about how they intend to tell others about Jesus. They know that there\u2019s no feeling like being saved from a past life of sin, and they want others to feel that as well. They simply can\u2019t contain the excitement, and it\u2019s the same sense of joy shared with those who were saved all throughout the book of Acts. When we don\u2019t understand the depth of our sins, we have a lesser appreciation for that feeling of being saved from them and so we have a harder time empathizing with the lost. Again, we simply go from being who we were the day before to being the same person with a baptism in his back pocket. Where\u2019s the urgency in that?
\nSolutions<\/strong>
\nSo, what do we do to fix this problem? Obviously the answer isn\u2019t to stop teaching young children about God or stop bringing them to class and worship. Instead, we need to teach what it really means to be lost. We can\u2019t feel the depth of God\u2019s love and grace when all we know about being lost is that short time period between when we felt we started being accountable and when we got baptized. I\u2019m sure we can all recall a time when we were terrified by the notion that we were going to hell if we didn\u2019t change, but we can\u2019t forget that we weren\u2019t destined for hell simply because we hadn\u2019t been baptized yet, we were destined for hell because our sins had separated us from God. That\u2019s a big difference. This realization should renew our appreciation for Him, fill us with a desire to grow in our relationship with Him, and give us that passion for those who are still in that lost state.
\nWithin our congregations, that means getting uncomfortable. We can\u2019t stay inside the box of preaching how great we are on baptism, instrumental music, and women\u2019s roles or how evil and wicked someone else\u2019s sins are. Even preaching generically against sin doesn\u2019t cut it. What we need is to have preachers speaking the truth on all sins and unrighteousness and saying, “Thou art the man!” (2 Samuel 12:7), \u201csuch were some of you\u201d (1 Corinthians 6:11) and \u201cwork out your salvation with fear and trembling\u201d (Philippians 2:12). Once we start to understand what we\u2019re being saved from daily (not what we were<\/em> saved from one day years ago), it makes us a whole lot more appreciative of His grace when we fall. It\u2019s time young people start growing up in churches that teach baptism as a life sentence for the old man of sin rather than life insurance for the same person they\u2019ve always been.
\nYou can read my follow-up and semi-retraction here<\/a>.<\/em>
\n[1]<\/a>\u00a0Please note, I\u2019m not saying it was a bad thing to grow up in the church. I was blessed beyond anything I deserve to spend my childhood learning the truth from faithful parents and my Bible class teachers were a great help along the way as well. Still, these issues do matter and I think they should receive our attention.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

We\u2019re all well aware that the church is falling short in the area of evangelism, that we don\u2019t keep many of our young people faithful, and that the church has stagnated in areas. However, I think those are merely the external symptoms of a larger problem. 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